My story...
about Kashmira
My journey taught me invaluable lessons. At the age of 37, with 3 children aged 2, 7 and 9, living in a foreign country, I found myself in an impossible situation that could only end in divorce.
Initially, (driven by fear and anxiety) I hired the No 1 law firm in the country thinking they would take care of everything. I expected them to deal with matters quickly and efficiently. I expected them to prioritise the children. I expected justice and fairness. Sadly, none of that actually happened.
And it’s a path best traveled with support and camaraderie.
In our sessions, I share both the ups and downs of my own path, alongside the depth of learning I’ve gathered from years of study with some of the best in the field, not just as a coach, but as someone who has walked a similar road.
This work is about supporting you with insight and perspective.
I'll admit that many times during my divorce, I felt like a martyr.
Always forcing myself to take the "high road" for the "sake of the children" and I'd angrily question myself,
"why should I always take the high road?"
"why does he get to get away with murder whilst I'm holding myself up to some saintly, goddess level standard?"
My work integrates conscious parenting, trauma-informed psychology, and nervous-system leadership through my SACRED™ framework.
Alongside my personal journey, I have over 25 years of experience working within nursery and Montessori settings in the UK and internationally, supporting children and families from the earliest years.
This lived professional experience deeply informs the way I work with parents today.
With the right guidance and method, success is attainable without the awful struggle and stress. Whether parenting or co-parenting.
in the end...
My divorce spanned 6.5 years,
traveled across 2 continents,
10,000+ pages in affidavits,
ultimately succeeding at every final hearing, on my own, against a team of fancy lawyers on the other side.
Believe me, I understand the fears and struggles.
In reality, the children were an afterthought and three years down the line I couldn't afford the lawyers anymore anyway. But, fortunately, by that point, something amazing had happened.
I had learned from an army of experts.
By simply being forced to go through the process, I had gained incredible knowledge. I had learned how to clear my mind, control my emotions and ultimately found myself able to handle, and triumph, over every vexatious application, accusation, mind game and dirty trick in the book.
I had to grow immensely as a person and as a parent in order to protect my children's wellbeing as well as my relationship with them.
My journey taught me invaluable parenting lessons. At the age of 37, with 3 children aged 2, 7 and 9, living in a foreign country, I found myself in an impossible situation that could only end in divorce.
Initially, (driven by fear and anxiety), I hired the No 1 law firm in the country, thinking they would take care of everything. I expected them to deal with matters quickly and efficiently. I expected them to prioritise the children. I expected justice and fairness. Sadly, none of that actually happened.
About Kashmira
Now, years later, I see the value of my efforts, in my children, now 16, 21 & 23.
Healing myself, challenging myself, learning, evolving, failing, trying again. It was all so worth it.
My story...
— LEILA, mum of 2
No one saw how much I was struggling. I wore a smile, but inside I was numb.
My husband convinced me that all our problems were in my head and it was all my fault. So I did everything I could to make things right including going on courses and changing my look but nothing was working and I could feel myself losing control.
That's when I contacted Kashmira. She and I broke down the story until I could see every part of it so clearly that I couldn't understand how I never saw it for what it was before. I felt so empowered that my fears were replaced with strength and the Court stuff just became so much easier. Kashmira is a divorce BFF 100%.
Qualifications
Certified practitioner from Dr Shefali's Conscious Parenting & Life Coaching Institute.
Certified Parenting & Life Coach
Proud member of the Association of Mental Health First Aiders.
MHFA
England
Legal qualification from CILEx
Chartered Institute of Legal Executives.
Chartered Institute of Legal Executives
Certified Educator
The Parent Practice
Montessori Educator
MCI, London
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I've been around the world. Born in Brazil, I've lived in Africa, Paris, Manhattan, Japan, India, Singapore and UK and traveled to 32 other countries. I understand people and the influences of culture on how we relate as people/ parents.
Going through my divorce, waiting anxiously for hearings to start, I would repeat this to myself over and over again. So relevant and on point.
I love art and b/w photography! I was a Fine-Art family portrait photographer in Tokyo and Singapore. These days my mission is to help families look and feel good on the inside.
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A clarity call is a gentle, no-obligation conversation to explore what support would feel most helpful for you right now, whether you’re navigating everyday parenting challenges or more complex co-parenting dynamics.